This past Sunday hubby’s Dad was admitted into the hospital. He has lost the use of his arms and legs, and had fallen the night before.
While we’ve known that his condition has gradually been deteriorating over this past year, we are losing hope that he will make it out this time. Over the past couple of days he has lost his ability to swallow and he has had a feeding tube inserted. Things are not looking good.
Hubby seems to be handling things okay but is really struggling with all of this. He told me the other night that he just didn’t know how to be or how to feel.
He’s never been through this before.
At this point it may only be a few days before he passes. He is 76. In spite of everything though he has not lost his sense of humor and even joked with the family about them just strapping a steak to his butt to heal him. Just like applying a steak to a black eye I suppose.
Well, he is surrounded by so many people who love him. He has many grandchildren and now several great grandchildren. We will miss him terribly.
My question though is this: how do you help a grieving spouse? Men grieve so much more differently than woman do. I’m trying to just take my queues from Hubby’s reactions to this. For instance, give him space when he needs it and then back away when he needs it, etc… I know Flamingo Dancer went through this not too long ago with her father-in-law. Anybody have any advice?
Hubby’s birthday is this weekend and then next weekend of course is Father’s Day. Although the timing stinks, is there ever really a time that is right?